Self Identity

Self Identity

My parents always preached to me that I was equal to everyone else and that no one was better than I was. I truly believed that until the day I started school in America and I realized that no matter how much I thought of myself as being equal, other weren’t going to let me forget just how wrong I was. The African American students did not like me because I was Haitian, African Americans does not believe Haitians were black, only they are the real blacks sad right. The whites did not seem to take to me because of the obvious reasons, I was a black kid, and they did not need to know if I was not African American but as long as the color of my skin was different from theirs that pretty much was it for them. The Hispanics were neutral because they themselves were going through the same thing I was going through. I thought I would seek refuge with my people, but I did not fit in there either, they did not feel like I was Haitian enough because I grew up in the united states, so to them I was a fake Haitian, which means I was lost. I would come home and my parents would see that something was very wrong with me and they could not figure it out and afterwards we sat down and talked and they told me that in this country we as Haitians have to work three times harder than everyone else because we are the black sheep country, which means we are social outcast even amongst other immigrant countries.
I am a male which means we are not to show fear or any feelings that are deemed feminine. I was brought up to be tough a provider and a good father, protector and husband. We are to be the disciplinary in our house. This type of stereotype about men has been passed down from generation to generation and even the women have been brought up to believe that and most of them also have come to except that because of how their fathers were.
Sex was thought to be something that we are only were supposed to engage in sex after marriage, I did not become sexually active until I got married. My wife and I were each other’s first and that was the most fulfilling feeling in the world to know that we shared something so beautiful with one another. Unfortunately in today’s society children are becoming sexually active before they reached their teens which is one of the reasons there are so many teen pregnancies and sexually transmitted diseases, these young people were never properly educated in the proper ways of protecting themselves.